VIDEO: SCCR event: Ripples...The Power of You 'Mediation

VIDEO: SCCR event: Ripples...The Power of You 'Mediation - A success Story?'

Click here to watch a presentation that I gave on the 19th October 2023 (National Conflict Resolution Day) as part of the Scottish Centre for Conflict Resolution's (SCCR) Ripples...The Power of You online events. I really enjoyed giving this presentation, though as per usual I spoke too much and we basically had to skip the Q&A which is my favourite part. One day I will learn!

Mediation - A Success Story? with Alan Jeffrey, Senior Mediator, Cyrenians

This event on the 19th October 10:00 is with Alan Jeffrey, Senior Mediator, Cyrenians. We are thrilled to have Alan join us on National Conflict Resolution Day. As mediation continues to grow as an alternative way to address, repair and settle conflict, more attention is being paid to how we can ensure mediation is as successful as it can be. Join Cyrenians senior mediator Alan Jeffrey in this interactive session to explore what makes mediation successful. Particularly focusing on the situations that are most suited to mediation, the qualities of the mediator themselves and the concept of procedural fairness, where mediation process heavily impacts parties perspective on success. The event will be followed by a Q&A.

SHARED WITH THE PERMISSION OF SCCR

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